Bath for baby bear

Ever since Savanna was born, Josh laid claimed to my bear toy and it became his “Baby Bear”. He like to take care of Baby Bear the same way I take care of Savanna. Josh would put Baby Bear down for naps, teach her how to walk, nursed her with his belly, and take her to the playground to go down the slide. It’s really sweet how he is so protective of this bear.

Over time, Baby Bear got really dirty, but Josh didn’t want to put her in the washer. Eventually he agreed that we need to give Baby Bear a bath, and he was going to do the work. He looks like a proud daddy, washing his baby for the first time.

Start with a scrub with some soap.

Start with a scrub with some soap.

Daddy gets in to help make sure all the parts are scrubbed.

Daddy gets in to help make sure all the parts are scrubbed.

Rinsing off the soap.

Rinsing off the soap.

He put his thumbs over the bear's eyes so water won't get into her eyes.

He put his thumbs over the bear’s eyes so water won’t get into her eyes.

Baby Bear all washed and cleaned, wrapped up in a towel to dry.

Baby Bear all washed and cleaned, wrapped up in a towel to dry.

A clean bear.

A clean bear.

The pink bear

A while ago, I posted about the Adventures of Baby Bear.  This little pink bear goes EVERYWHERE with Joshua.  He truly loves this bear.  I have seen him come home from preschool, running to the bear, picking it up with both hands, and say, “Oh, baby bear, I love you soooo much!”

We don’t teach Joshua that pink is for girls.  I don’t believe colors should be gender-specific, at least not at his age.

But you know what I’ve realized about myself?  I have these ideals in my head, like teaching Joshua that colors are not gender-specific, and that it’s ok for a little boy to carry around a pink bear.  But I am also afraid of what other people think of these ideals, like what if a kid made fun of him, or bullied him because of it?  On one hand I want to raise this confident and happy child who can make his own choices, and on the other hand I’m so jaded that I want to make his choices for him so he will “fit in”.

We took the kids on the sea bus for the first time on the weekend.  Joshua insisted on bringing Baby Bear so she can go on the sea bus too.  While we were waiting for the sea bus, Joshua went to stand beside these two older boys.  One of them took a look at Joshua’s bear, did a little eye rolling, and said something to his grandma about pink bear.  My heart was in the pit of my stomach, thinking my worst fear has come true.

Over the course of the sea bus ride, Joshua made friends with the two boys, and they ended up sharing their toys with him.  There was no further discussion of the pink bear.

I write this to sort through my own thoughts.  I think as much as I fear that Joshua may not “fit in” while carrying a pink bear around, I am so envious of him.  He doesn’t worry about what people think of him.  He wears his heart on his sleeve.  He is not afraid to show how much he cares about something.  He is secure and confident in his choices.  Those are all qualities I wish I have.  I certainly do not need to be the first person in his life to tell him to worry about what others think of him.

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The adventures of baby bear

Joshua pulled up his shirt and put baby bear on his belly to "nurse baby bear".

Joshua pulled up his shirt and put baby bear on his belly to “nurse baby bear”.

Many years ago, Cliff bought me a set of Bean Baby bears, one pink and one brown, to represent me and him.  Eventually Joshua took possession of the bears and they became his.  He calls the pink one “Angela bear”, and the brown one “Clifford bear”.  For some reason, he spends way more time with the pink one than the brown one.

Lately, he started this thing where he calls the pink bear “baby bear”, and treats it exactly how I would treat Savanna.  He would cuddle baby bear in his arms, put it on his pillow for naps, and give toys to baby bear to play with.  He tells baby bear not to cry, and he even shushes me if baby bear is napping.

Here is a collection of iPhone photos I’ve snapped of Joshua’s interactions with baby bear.

Checking baby bear's diaper for poop.

Checking baby bear’s diaper for poop.

Bear buckled in the stroller, ready to go for a walk.

Bear buckled in the stroller, ready to go for a walk.

Joshua put lotion all over the bear because he was giving her a massage.Joshua put lotion all over the bear because he was giving her a massage.

Taking baby bear out for a walk in the sling.

Taking baby bear out for a walk in the sling.

Teaching baby bear how to walk.

Teaching baby bear how to walk.